Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Pondering

Mary treasured up these things and pondered them in her heart.” Luke 2:19

We are in the Advent season and I’ve been thinking about the words of Luke 2 and the Christmas story. Mary gave birth to Jesus and was visited by some ordinary shepherds who told an extraordinary story – of angels in the sky and announcement of manger baby and glory of God – and those shepherds then went and blabbed what had been told them about the child to the whole town. The Scriptures tells us that all who heard it “wondered at these things.” And Mary quietly treasured up and pondered.


It’s got me to thinking about contemplating and about how I want to be quietly pondering during this holiday season so that I might get filled up with wonder.


What brings you to wonder?


What might you treasure up of your thoughts or moments today and this month?

(this Greek word syntereo means to preserve from being lost, to keep in mind)


What will you ponder in your heart in these days?

(Greek word symballo means to bring together in one’s mind, confer with one’s self)

It may be a bit of a stretch, but to sit with these questions seems to me a kind of meditative act. This wondering and treasuring up words spoken and mindfully bringing together experiences, for Mary and for us in our present moments, seems to be beneficial in wholistic ways (and that benefit, I speculate, is by God’s design):

*spiritually – this wondering can connect us to our true stories (for Mary and me and many - this God made man-baby that affects our relationships to divine and human) and moves us to gratitude;


*emotionally/mentally – meditative pondering can connect us to the “what is” present with acceptance [article Meditation and Psychiatry states: “…unity with the present moment brings an acceptance, even as one acts to make changes, accompanied by subjective experiences of understanding, joy, serenity, freedom and self fulfillment.9];


*physically – connects us to better health [again, from article Meditation and Psychiatry, meditation benefits include: “Decreased stress and hypertension have been related to decreased autonomic arousal or reactivity,9597 a possible means, along with positive emotions, reduced oxidative damage,98,99 and enhanced immune functioning,100 by which meditation may preserve cognition101 and reduce age-related allostatic stress and neuronal loss, thereby promoting brain longevity, plasticity, and learning.102,103 ]

In this holiday month may your body and mind and spirit be full of wonder as you meditatively ponder on Love and on all of Love's gifts.


Love came down at Christmas
Love came down at Christmas,
love all lovely, love divine;
love was born at Christmas:
star and angels gave the sign.

Worship we the Godhead,
love incarnate, love divine;
worship we our Jesus,
but wherewith the sacred sign?

Love shall be our token;
love be yours and love be mine,
Love to God and to all men,
love for plea and gift and sign.

- Christina Rossetti (1830-1894), 1885


[If you want, here's a Jars of Clay rendition of the song]

Friday, November 26, 2010

End of an era

Daughter Rebekah is making me a CD of Christmas music. On it is an Amy Grant song "Breath of Heaven" that I've appreciated since almost 20 years ago. When I listened to it yesterday the tears flowed as I realized how deeply my 'world' has changed in the last two decades.
I am at the end of an era of dependent kids; and at an end of an era of a particular kind of faith. My faith in God as a certain kind of Being who acts in specific ways of doing has been altered.
These are the words in the song that especially resonated at this last hearing and seem pertinent to my faith walk:

"Help me be strong;
help me be;
help me"

-I first wanted to be strong (live in the strength of the Lord, be strong in wisdom and discipline, be a good girl and good Christian), then
-I wanted to "be" (and I still desire to "be" more than "do," want to live in true self and be the real me that God made me to be), and next
-I want to just live in the 'help me' place (of simply looking to God, looking for Love and presence and togetherness with God, letting it be about Him/Her).

These couple of quotes seem relevant:

"Our faith is weak. Indeed, too often the weakest thing about our faith is the illusion that our faith is strong, when the "strength" we feel is only the intensity of emotion or of sentiment, which have nothing to do with real faith.

How many people there are in the world of today who have "lost their faith" along with the vain hopes and illusions of their childhood. What they called "faith" was just one among all the other illusions. They placed all their hope in a certain sense of spiritual peace, of comfort, of interior equilibrium, of self-respect. Then when they began to struggle with the real difficulties and burdens of mature life, when they became aware of their own weakness, they lost their peace, they let go of their precious self-respect, and it became impossible for them to "believe." That is to say it became impossible for them to comfort themselves, to reassure themselves, with the images and concepts that they found reassuring in childhood...

Self-confidence is a precious natural gift, a sign of health. But is is not the same thing as faith. Faith is much deeper, and it must be deep enough to subsist when we are weak, when we are sick, when our self-confidence is gone, when our self-respect is gone... True faith must be able to go on when when everything else is taken away from us."
- Thomas Merton...New Seeds of Contemplation 189

The meeting of God is always, by definition, a journey into the unfamiliar. - St. John of the Cross

Monday, November 8, 2010

Get through

In the case of good books, the point is not how many of them you can get through, but rather how many can get through to you.
-Mortimer J. Adler, philosopher, educator and author (1902-2001)

Monday, November 1, 2010

Less can be more

I have so much: especially compared with much of the rest of the world. In this month of Thanksgiving we take time to remember this idea of abundance. Abundance certainly is to be celebrated – but along with much comes a tendency to overuse, or take for granted, or harbor feelings of entitlement.

In the U.S.’s environment of plenty, we tend to take in too much, with food being a major area of over-consumption.
Below I offer a few strategies to tame our eating too much and its natural consequence of becoming overweight.

You’ve likely heard these before, but hopefully the reminders will be helpful. This is long – so enjoy the liberty of picking from the bolded headings what most interests you.

* Use smaller dishes – “Chose a 10" lunch plate instead of a 12" dinner plate to cut out 100-200 calories a day – and 10-20 pounds in a year. Cornell's Brian Wansink, PhD, found in test after test that people serve more and eat more food with larger dishes. In Wansink’s/Cornell University's food lab tests, no one felt hungry or even noticed when tricks of the eye shaved 200 calories off their daily intake.” [See Wansink's Mindless Eating website for some specific ideas to avoid eating mindlessly].

* Watch what you drink -

1) Use a tall, skinny glass instead of a short, wide tumbler to cut liquid calories and weight. You’ll drink 25-30% less juice, soda, wine, or any other beverage. Brian Wansink, PhD, says visual cues can trick us into consuming more or less. His tests at Cornell University found all kinds of people poured more into a short, wide glass — even experienced bartenders.

2) Replace one soda with a zero-calorie seltzer or water (add lemon, mint, or frozen strawberries for flavor and interest) and you'll avoid 10 teaspoons of sugar. The liquid sugar in soda appears to bypass the body's normal fullness cues. One small study compared an extra 450 calories per day from jelly beans vs. soda. The candy eaters unconsciously reduced their calorie intake from other foods by about the same amount of the caloric intake of the candy and their BMI didn't change; not so with the soda drinkers. The soda drinkers did not reduce their intake from other foods and gained 2.5 pounds in four weeks.

3) Limit alcohol. When an occasion includes alcohol, follow the first drink with a nonalcoholic, low-calorie beverage like sparkling water instead of moving directly to another cocktail, beer, or glass of wine. Alcohol has more calories per gram (7) than carbohydrates (4) or protein (4). It can also loosen your resolve, leading you to mindlessly inhale chips, nuts, and other foods you may normally limit.

4) Drink green tea. Some studies suggest that it can rev up the body's calorie-burning engine temporarily, possibly through the action of phytochemicals called catechins.

* Sleep more - Sleeping an extra hour a night could help a person drop 14 pounds in a year, according to a U of Michigan researcher Dr. Michael Sivak, who ran the numbers for a 2,500 calorie per day intake. Our “inactive wakefulness” in the later evening often includes mindless snacking (of 147 calories on average; as reported by WebMD) . Each additional hour of sleep he estimates reduces caloric intake by 6%. Additionally, there’s evidence that getting too little sleep revs up your appetite, making you uncommonly hungry.

* Serve more veggies - Greater variety has been associated with eating more food. Try serving three vegetables with dinner instead of just one, and you might just eat more veggies. The high fiber and water content fills you up with fewer calories.

* Pay attention –

1) to slight fullness - Americans are conditioned to keep eating until they’re stuffed, but residents of Okinawa eat until they’re 80% full. Researcher Brian Wansink’s studies show most people don’t miss it when they’re dished out 20% less food.

2) to your self - Women who do yoga tend to weigh less than others, according to a 2009 published study in the Journal of the American Dietetic Association. The yoga regulars reported a more "mindful" approach to eating. For example, they tend to notice the large portions in restaurants but eat only enough to feel full. Researchers think the calm self-awareness developed through yoga may help people resist overeating.

3) to the pause - Most people have a natural "eating pause," when they drop the fork for a couple of minutes. Watch for this quiet signal that you're full but not stuffed, and don't take another bite. Clear your plate and enjoy the conversation.

4) to portion size - measure portions to avoid super sizing. Slim people and successful losers do it, according to a Consumer Reports survey. Make portion control easier with small "snack" packs and by keeping serving dishes off the table at meal time. See www.deesdirt.blogspot.com (Nov 1) for some one-portion serving sizes.

* Eat more slowly - Set a timer for 20 minutes and reinvent yourself as a slow eater. Savor each bite and make it last until the bell chimes. Paced meals offer great pleasure from smaller portions and trigger the body’s fullness hormones.

- According to large study (of more than 4,100 men and women from Japan who were asked to fill out surveys about their diet history and overall cardiovascular risk) published in the British Medical Journal, eating quickly and eating until full were directly associated with being overweight. In fact, a combination of the two habits was shown to play a part on actually becoming over weight.

- A 2008 study published in Journal of the American Dietetic Association discovered that if people changed their eating habits slightly - by taking small bites, putting down the utensils between bites and chewing all food thoroughly – their overall feeling of being full after eating were maximized. Framson, C. Journal of the American Dietetic Association, August 2009; vol 109: pp 1439-1444.

- More recently, the January 2010 issue of the Journal of Clinical Endocrinology & Metabolism includes the first study to find that there are possible physiological reasons behind feeling full after a slow consumption of food. In this small study, a total of 17 healthy men ate the same meal consisting of 300 ml of ice cream, but were told to eat it under two different conditions. In the first condition, the meal was divided into two equal portions and the men ate the first portion, waited five minutes and then ate the second portion. Under the second condition, the meal was divided into seven equal portions and over 30 minutes the men ate one of the seven portions every five minutes. Through the use of blood samples taken before and in 30-minute intervals after eating the meal for a total of three and a half hours, the study found that the body released higher amounts of appetite suppressing hormones after the 30-minute meal than after the 5-minute meal. The higher level of these hormones (glucagon-like peptide-1 and peptide YY) made the men feel fuller after the 30-minute meal compared to the 5-minute meal.

* Eat home-cooked meals at least five days a week. A Consumer Reports survey found this was a top habit of "successful losers." Shortcut foods can make for quick meals, such as pre-chopped lean beef for fajitas, washed lettuce, pre-cut veggies, canned beans, cooked chicken strips, or grilled deli salmon.

* Start with a broth-based soup - it slows your eating and curbs your appetite. For an easy soup, add fresh or frozen vegetables to a low-sodium broth or canned soup and simmer. Beware of creamy soups, which can be high in fat and calories.

* Shovel in the whole grains such as brown rice, barley, oats, buckwheat, and whole wheat - they help fill you up with fewer calories and may improve your cholesterol profile, too.

* Chew sugarless gum with a strong flavor when you're feeling like snacking. Gum with a big flavor punch overpowers other foods so they don’t taste as good.

* Burn an extra 100 calories a day and lose 10 pounds in a year. Try one of these activities: Walk 1 mile, about 20 minutes, Pull weeds or plant flowers for 20 minutes, Mow the lawn for 20 minutes, Clean house for 30 minutes, Jog for 10 minutes.

Portion sized, not super sized

One serving size:

Meat: a 3-ounce portion = A deck of cards or the palm of your hand

Peanut butter: 2 tablespoons = size of a golf ball, has about 190 calories, 17 grams fat

Chips: = 1 handful; that's 6 large tortilla chips or 20 potato chips or mini-pretzels

Fruits and veggies = size of a baseball or of your fist

1 cup leafy greens = size of 2 tennis balls


Try these tips to increase awareness about (and maybe even reduce!) portion sizes:

- Ask about half portions or order from the child's menu.

- If you get a full portion size, box up half your entrée before you start eating.

- Share your food with your companion.

- Eat a healthy appetizer and soup or salad instead of an entrée.

- Eat more dark green (spinach, broccoli, Swiss chard, kale), red, and orange foods with lots of nutrition: (berries, red bell peppers, tomatoes, pumpkin, sweet potatoes).